Tell Me Something Good
Hello Qurious Readers!
Several years ago, I had the opportunity as part of the Partnerships for Social Emotional Learning Initiative (SEAL Grant) to travel to various schools and programs that were using the Capturing Kids Hearts curriculum, as well as participate in an intensive leadership training using the program. It focuses on social emotional wellbeing, relationship-driven cultures and connection. One engagement strategy they encourage to engage youth (and adults) is Tell Me Something Good. This is a quick and easy way to engage youth and staff to set a tone and mindset of positivity and connection. Don’t get me wrong…it is not ignoring the tough stuff happening around us or promoting “toxic positivity,” but rather gives all youth an opportunity to share and reflect on even the smallest things that are good. I have used this as both welcoming rituals and optimistic closures in meetings and workshops. I decided to use it this evening with my two children, here’s how it went:
Me: Hey Uzo (my 11 year-old daughter), tell me something good.
Uzo: I pulled a flag today in my flag football game.
Me: I saw that, it was pretty awesome. (Then we talked more about the game.)
Me: Hey Ibe (my 15 year-old son), tell me something good.
Ibe: It’s my 6th month anniversary with my girlfriend.
Me: Sounds like it was a special day (Then we talked more about that.)
Tell Me Something Good is a way to connect, deepen relationships and is an activity everyone can engage in. I would not have guessed that Uzo’s good thing would have been the one flag she pulled, and when I asked follow up questions, she shared that it was that flag that stopped a girl from scoring a winning touchdown, and although she didn’t play much, she felt like her contribution was meaningful. Ibe and I talked a bit about his relationship and it cracked open the door for him to share in a way that does not happen often.
You can ask yourself this as well:
Me: Tell me something good.
Me: People who work with youth directly or on behalf of youth. It’s tough, fun, rewarding and essential work. I am grateful for you reading to the end of this newsletter. 🙂
I invite you to give this a try in the next couple weeks…see what you learn about youth, staff, your family and yourself!
Until next time…stay EQurious!
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