Holding Space
Hello Qurious Readers!
When I woke my daughter (she’s 11) for school yesterday morning, the first words out of her mouth were, “Did Kamala win?” When I shook my head no, tears welled up in her eyes and she said, “Wow, people must really not want a woman to be president.” This is not a post about the election. It is how we hold space for young people (and each other) when things don’t make sense and they are scared about the future in any situation. For my daughter, this was not only going to be the first woman president, but one that looked like her. That meant everything to her. I hugged her tightly and said, “I don’t know if that's true, but what I do know is that is a hard thought to have and all the feelings that go with it.”
This is my Quriosity invitation today: How do we hold space for all the thoughts and feelings that the young people are experiencing, particularly during times of change and uncertainty? As adults we often beeline straight to problem solving and making young people feel better. It’s ok to validate what they are experiencing and share that you don’t know what the future holds either. They want to know that YOU are a safe place for them to share their thoughts, fears and feelings. You do not have to agree with their thoughts/feelings, know all the answers to their questions, you just have to show up and hold space.
P.S. Don’t forget to hold space for yourself as well.
Until next time…stay EQurious!
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